Dating Men is Often a Long Hustle of Becoming Diminished For Being Obtainable

The difficulty of the male gaze.

A lot of men will lie and say they aren’t like this, but can count on both hands how many times they’ve had a “situation” go up in smokes and it “wasn’t my fault, just the timing.” It neglects how much of these problems we actually do cause simply for doing what we want without thinking about why we want to do it. It has always been my belief that men operate with a misunderstanding of themselves that has been magnified by their own egos and delusions of grandeur. It reminds me of when a friend told me about this concept of Main Character Syndrome and I believe it’s just masculinity by any other names. These men walk through the world deluding themselves that the world exists to do things to them and only them; they are the body and we are the virus. The problem is we have to date these self-absorbed people.

Last year, I added romance to my list of needs when discussing how my 2020 would look. It was a strange change in my usual standards, but after my 25th year ended with deep investigations on the things I missed out on in my chase for the bag and a sense of satisfaction, I realized that a reflection of myself I have never given a close consideration is myself in a relationship. I’m known for being overly self-reliant and self-satisfying. I do not believe in changing myself for anyone and I carry that chip on my shoulder. There was and is nothing a relationship can give me that a friendship and companionship with trustworthy people could not.